not the man
it feels like i've used this title for a post before...
your relationship questions are great ones. i've heard others talk about similar issues. i have no clue how to grow together with someone because i've never done it- in romance anyway. but i have a few friends who can testify.
my friend Andrew, for instance, commented on his last visit about the interesting time he and his wife Kathy were in. "you know" he said "how usually you're in kind of different places spiritually?" (i was like, yeah, but i didn't really know since this also is something i've never managed to communicate in a relationship too well) "right now" Andrew went on "Kathy and I are both thinking a lot of the same things and really letting go a lot of the same ideas we've had and working from this very basic foundation. so it's been quite an interesting journey together."
i write that just to say i know it does happen and can happen, and it can happen only rarely even in a very solid relationship (which theirs is), but nothing can be forced. i think i've definitely learned that.
i moved into my new community this weekend, and it is a bit crazy right now. there is some contention and some relasping and some confusion and anger among the members, but it's exciting to be talking about working on things together and helping each other however we can instead of being stuck alone in our individual lives and problems.
your relationship questions are great ones. i've heard others talk about similar issues. i have no clue how to grow together with someone because i've never done it- in romance anyway. but i have a few friends who can testify.
my friend Andrew, for instance, commented on his last visit about the interesting time he and his wife Kathy were in. "you know" he said "how usually you're in kind of different places spiritually?" (i was like, yeah, but i didn't really know since this also is something i've never managed to communicate in a relationship too well) "right now" Andrew went on "Kathy and I are both thinking a lot of the same things and really letting go a lot of the same ideas we've had and working from this very basic foundation. so it's been quite an interesting journey together."
i write that just to say i know it does happen and can happen, and it can happen only rarely even in a very solid relationship (which theirs is), but nothing can be forced. i think i've definitely learned that.
i moved into my new community this weekend, and it is a bit crazy right now. there is some contention and some relasping and some confusion and anger among the members, but it's exciting to be talking about working on things together and helping each other however we can instead of being stuck alone in our individual lives and problems.
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